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I have been a dad to a lovely pretty girl for the past 9 years and still counting. I guess I am one of those lucky dads who have an “unica ija” that I can also say that is a daddy’s girl. Her pet name evolved from “my baby girl” to “my little girl” to the present “my dalaginding”. Trust me, I am not excited with the prospect of changing it again anytime soon. She is growing up very fast. But one thing will always remain as she grows up – she will always be daddy’s “chukoy”.

As we celebrate Father’s Day, let me share with you some of the lessons that I picked up along the way as a dad.

Ask your kid “How was your day?” every day.

After a long day at work and in school, I always make it a point to ask Asher how her day went. It is my opportunity where I get her to share with me the highlights of her day. I get to congratulate her for her small wins ad console her for a bad one. It is the window of opportunity where I get to see how he handles her daily routine, how she reacts on situations, and what excites her.

You will be surprised that after a couple of “”How was your day?” with your kid, they will start asking you the same question when you get home. It is a good habit for communication.

Let their creativity flow.

With the advent of social media and the advances in technology, kids have more channels where they can work and share their creativity.

Asher enjoys the app “musically” so much where she gets to express herself through movement and music. I was annoyed at first because she spends a lot of time on it. But when I stumbled upon one of her posts where she was expressing herself through dancing, I was amazed at the intensity of her expression. I was in awe that a very young age she can already express her creativity to own the song with her movement.

We let her explore her creative side in different mediums at a very young age. Interestingly, her creativity now manifests itself on social media.

Let your kids play with their creativity and let their imagination run free while they are still young.

Let your kids know and explore your passion.

Asher knows that I love to travel locally and, when the opportunity presents itself, I tag her along with me. Apart from our personal Instgram accounts (follow us on IG – @marc7del and @payatnalaskwatero), we also share an IG travel account – @thetravelingdada, which stands for “the traveling dad and daughter”. We also have our shared hashtag -#JournalsOfTheTravelingDaDa. Both the IG account and hashtag share our travel stories.

I always shared with Asher two of my passions – local travel and mobile photography. This is my way of imparting to her the lesson of being a proud Pinoy by going out and exploring the Philippines. Our travels have brought us to the northern tip of Ilocos to the southern tip of Palawan, close to the borders of Sabah, this year alone. We have hiked to catch a glimpse of Kabigan Falls, ziplined in Bukidnon, white water rafted in Cagayan de Oro, and made our way to three of Iligan’s waterfalls on a habal-habal. It is a different kind of adventure when you travel with your kid to these amazing destinations but what makes it memorable is watching their eyes glow in wonder and awe during the trip.

The home and the classroom are not the only venues where your child can learn. There is a bigger world that both you and your kids can explore.

Teach you kid about responsibility.

Teach your kids to be responsible on things that they can handle like carrying their schoolbag or fixing their play area. AND you got to start them young.

This is where I am facing a lot of challenges right now. Asher is used to having someone around who will be there to help her out even on the smallest things. Now we changing the mechanism in the house where we ask her to do small house tasks so that we can teach her about responsibility. This part is still a work-in-progress for both me and Asher and she is starting to get the hang of it.

Be a kid.

I guess the best part of being a dad is I get to be a kid again. I play around with Asher like I am also a nine year old kid. I can easily play the part that she wants me to play. I can join her while she makes videos, making the same funny expressions that she does. We love making funny faces on cam. I am not afraid to make funny dance movements while joining her dance.

I guess I never really saw myself as the “stern” dad as I always had been a wacky person so it is a lot easier for me to be a kid when I am around with Asher. Of course when we do that, Asher’s mom goes haywire because it was as if she has two kids under her care. But stepping into the shoes of my nine year old makes me see how she sees the world. It also gives her another playmate to play around with. She will only be a kid for a certain period of time so I might as well join the fun.

Being a dad is a challenge but it is a very fulfilling experience. It comes with a ton of responsibilities but the rewards are endless. On my part, I have earned myself a “kakulitan” partner and a travel buddy with my nine year old. It has given me a lot of memories and a lot of what-else-is-there-to-see. I am excited to see her grow up to becoming a beautiful lady both inside and out but like what I always tell Asher… please do not grow up too fast.


They say that great leaders rise at a time of great crisis and I totally agree with that. On the other side of the fence is the fact that at the same time of crisis, we also get to see the great fall of total idiots. I mean when we pick up a stick, we get both ends, right?

And seriously with the recent #MarawiClash, I had so much fun watching idiots fall flat on their faces with all their shared thoughts. Nasty and feisty at the start, they end up getting burned to the pulp by individuals who simply raised the level of their game by fact checking. Yes, these self-proclaimed “guardians” have every right to exercise their right of free speech and, as part of the freedom, also exercise their right to look stupid to their audience.

At the onset of the #MarawiClash, we had Leah Navarro taking the helm of the offensive against PDiggy, who happened to be in Russia at the time, with her hashtag – #NasaanAngPangulo. She reasoned that this was a time that the Marawi people needed him to be in the country and PDiggy was not in sight. It was an obvious swipe at the President similar to what VP Leni got when she proceeded with her US vacation despite the threat of a typhoon hitting Bicol.

Dutertards werequick to defend the President and I must say that they did it with flair. Miss Navarro failed to understand three crucial points in her offensive stance:

  1. PDiggy was on an official working trip to Russia at the time of the #MarawiClash, meaning he was at work, while that of VP Leni’s was a personal vacation… simply on a US vacation. That spells out a big difference.
  2. The clash was unexpected unlike the typhoon that was expected to hit the Bicol area.

These two points alone were enough to crush he attempts to discredit PRRD but using the hashtag, #NasaanAngPangulo, was the biggest clincher of all. The hashtag originated when the former PNoy, whom she supports to the tee, was attending a car event in Laguna while the remains of the Mamasapano heroes were arriving at Villamor Airbase. She unwittingly used a hashtag that was actually a swipe to the former President. In short, she used the hashtag that was actually an insult to PNoy. I guess it was her way of showing how much she loves and supports the former President.

The best part of it was when PDiggy made his statement “Don’t be afraid, I am coming home.” It totally knocked her wits out and that completely shut her up. I guess #NasaanSiLeahNavarro is a more appropriate hashtag at this time.

Of course, Jim Paredes wouldn’t pass up on the chance to put some relevance to his supposed “paninindigan” by citing the Zamboanga Siege. He said that that PNoy did not declare Martial Law at that time. Again, Dutertards were quick to put up a line of defence citing the mishandling of the situation by the previous administration.

On my end, I will simply put it as PNoy’s non-declaration of Martial Law then was NOT because of the circumstances but because his hands were tied to simply not to. Declaring Martial Law was never an option for PNoy. Simply think about the irony to have Ninoy and Cory fight against Martial Law only to be installed by their ONLY son even if it is just in Zamboanga City. It was more of an “iwas-pusoy” for PNoy. Let us face it that among all Philippine Presidents, it is the Aquinos who will never declare Martial Law even if needed. Again, it would be ironic.

I do not think former PNoy would be that stupid to make that move unless Jim Paredes have a different view of the former President’s intellect.

Over and above everyone is Raissa Robles and her failed attempts to carve out something for herself on the issue. It was actually amusing to watch her attack and fall flat on her face, only to rise up and fall flat again. It was like watching a circus where she was the clown and the social media users were her audience. It was dumb as f*ck but fairly amusing.

Her first attempt was an attack on Davao City Mayor Sarah Duterte when she issued guidelines for her constituents in the light of the Martial Law declaration in Mindanao by PDiggy. Miss Robles questioned the authority of the esteemed Mayor in her issuance of the said guidelines.

Prior to even reading Miss Robles’ tweet, I already read through the said guidelines released by Mayor Duterte. The guidelines were informing Davaoenos the basics of what to do and what to expect in Davao. It was intended for residents of Davao City coming from their local government head. I found it appropriate for the Mayor to take such concrete action as an attempt to quench any apprehension on the ML declaration. It was meant to inform, educate, tone down apprehensions, and guide Davaoenos.

Of course, Raissa Robles’ attempt to make it look inappropriate made her fall flat on her face straight into the mud. I read it and it was quite clear that it was Mayor Duterte’s guidelines to her constituents and, seriously as Mayor of Davao, she has the right to issue it. Mayor Sara was simply in the hood when she slammed Robles’ with her backlash and she was on point – if only Miss Robles read through it first before tweeting.

Still not done, another tweet comes through a few days after. This time hitting on Davao on their alleged refusal to accommodate Marawi refugees considering that Iligan and Cotabato were accommodating. The tweet simply had me laughing out loud. I guess most of the social media users were laughing their hearts out, as well.

A quick look at google maps would show that Iligan and Cotabato are the closest cities to Marawi. Davao is a long way down south. Miss Robles seemed to have misunderstood that when people flee a battle area, people seek refuge to the nearest city so Iligan and Cotabato are the best options. No one in the right mind would think of going to Davao first because of the DISTANCE unless they are planning to migrate or take a vacation. She seemed to have missed out that people fleeing Marawi are seeking refuge, not planning a field trip. Again geographically, you seek refuge to the closest city that you can go to especially when you only have a few belongings and valuables with you.

A simple toggling on the phone would have saved her the embarrassment. The funny thing is that she is still justifying that Davao will not accept refugees from Marawi even if there were no statements confirming her claim. I seriously think that it is simply her attempt to regain herself. Nevertheless, she is the obvious runaway winner for this round of idiots’ game. She fell and she fell mighty hard.

The best leaders rise during the most difficult times but it also shows stupidity at its finest. In this case, the #MarawiClash had me more amused with the idiots attempting to make themselves look smart in an arena where they really play hard. #SimplyAmusing.